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[billroper]

Thanks to everyone for all of the good wishes!

Just to quickly answer a few questions that have popped up:

1) We don't know what the baby's sex is. We may find out if it comes up during an ultrasound, the next one of which is scheduled for early July, but we're not actively trying to find it out.

2) Yes, this is what the cryptic messages about unspecified events in early March were about.

3) In fact, the implantation occurred while we were in the airplane flying to Consonance. This would explain why I kept running off to the Internet Lounge, trying to find out how things had gone.

4) Oh, boy, are we aware that this is going to change things!

5) Despite his occasional faults, my father was never guilty of not having time for us kids. This is a trait that I hope to emulate. Not so much the Food Nazi stuff...

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[blueeyedtigress.livejournal.com]

3) In fact, the implantation occurred while we were in the airplane flying to Consonance.

And that, good sir, is the weirdest definition of the Mile High Club I have ever encountered. ::ducking now:: ;]

[billroper]

And, sadly, you would not be the first person who thought of that...

[blueeyedtigress.livejournal.com]

Gah. Sorry Bill -- but at least, since I've made a fool of myself saying on your LJ, no one else (who comes here anyway!) will think it original. Just doing my part to raise the bar on conversation around the topic, yeah, that's it ... ;]

(Or did you mean you thought of it first ...?)

[billroper]

Right the second time. :)

[blueeyedtigress.livejournal.com]

Good on ya, laddie! ;]

[rmeidaking.livejournal.com]

"We don't know what the baby's sex is."

This shows I don't really understand all the ins and outs of IVF. I had thought that when they checked the conglomeration of cells to see if the unit was viable, they looked at the chromosomes along the way. I know from seeing the report on both of my kids' amniocentisis reports that even a total layperson like myself can tell an XX from an XY.

Congratulations, and I hope everything goes smoothly.

[billroper]

They only take a cell out of the embryo for genetic testing during IVF if there's a nasty hereditary disease they can test for. In our case, that didn't apply, so they didn't do it.

Thanks for the good wishes.

[artbeco.livejournal.com]

You know, people will ask questions that really don't matter, in the overall scheme of things, simply because you both have had a long road to having a child. People are nosy and curious because it's one of the more unusual ways to end up with a child. You'll both have to decide how you want to handle such questions and how much you want people to know; it's really nobody else's business. Not to be harsh or rude towards anybody, but it's a baby, a wonderful thing for both of you and that's what really matters.

And really, once you have a baby, none of the mechanics involved in getting there matter. And that's a part of the miracle that modern methods provide; the baby will take over your hearts and minds so completely that you'll wonder what life was like before the kidlet came along. :)

[billroper]

Thanks for the perspective. I sort of fall into the "ready to answer reasonable questions" category. The trick is finding that reasonable boundary. :)

I'm looking forward to experiencing the latter emotions you describe.

[pheltzer.livejournal.com]

Sandy thoughht about this when she was pregnant so I'll mention it here... you all might consider having a T-Shirt made up with the answers to the 10 most frequently asked questions and just wear that around for awhile. It would really have made life easier. :)

[dek9.livejournal.com]

1) We don't know what the baby's sex is. We may find out if it comes up during an ultrasound, the next one of which is scheduled for early July, but we're not actively trying to find it out.

The way most people find out is through an ultrasound, and the baby isn't even going to have discernible "parts" until 16 weeks - and it's unlikely they will pick them up on a casual ultrasound until closer to 20 weeks, which is when you generally have the full blown, check out all the stuff ultrasound anyhow.

We actively sought the answer to that question with both kids, and I'm glad we did. Others I know have actively avoided it, and were glad they did.

And it's ok, take a deep breath - you and daisy_knotwise are going to make fabulous parents.

[billroper]

Makes sense. The next ultrasound in July will, no doubt, be that round of checks.

Thanks!

[stevieannie.livejournal.com]

Reading my flist backwards to catch up, and found this post first.

I'm crying :-) With happiness, of course :-)

I love it when great things happen to great people - you'll both be amazing as parents!

Congratulations and blessings on everyone who is playing their part in making this little miracle happen.

[billroper]

Thanks!