Ok, this seems counterintuitive. I'm playing around with picks of various gauges. It seems like it's easier to play softly (that is, with less volume) with a heavier gauge pick than it is with a lighter gauge pick.
For me, a thicker pick, at least to a point, gives more control. However, I don't like the tone I get with a heavy gauge pick, so I use plain old Fender medium. A thin definitely flaps around too much to give you much control, and also gives a clicky tone.
I can't remember how I used to get by with thin picks on my 12-string (though I have the leftovers to prove I once did). Ever since I started using mediums & heavies, trying to use a thin pick again just results in the poor thing being shredded in less than one song.
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Me too, but mine are Martin mediums.